Deep cleavage and hot pornostar look are out of fashion for a long time. The trend for latent sexuality has replaced, that is, seductiveness, sophistication and style a la Matilda Shnurov.
More and more men began to peck at just such women. And that's why the guys suddenly fell out of love with silicone necklines, we asked an expert - a psychologist and sexologist of the popular network "Training Center SEKS. RF" and the author of the training "Art of Sensuality" Galina Dmitrieva:
- Sexuality, like fashion, has its own definite turns. In this case, these are the turns of the sexual revolution, the very changes in culture and perceptions of sex that affect what people consider sexy.
The boom of "mini and silicone", coupled with aggressive propaganda of sex, fell on the first wave of the sexual revolution, the purpose of which was to declare: "You are free, sex exists, it can and should be done, this is natural!" And any struggle for liberation at some point develops into propaganda, because the accelerated revolutionary train is quite difficult to stop. It was this "train effect" that played a kind of bad joke on the woman, turning her into a sexual object.
Why sexuality has ceased to be fashionable
Previously, a decent woman and sexuality existed with each other in parallel universes, society inspired us that only libertines want to have sex. Women in every possible way suppressed their sexuality, it was considered a sin. The sexual revolution literally made an unprepared woman want sex, she had not yet figured out how propaganda poured on her from all sources of information: you must have an orgasm, you must love sex, if you don’t like sex, you’re frigid, if you don’t show yourself - you are not in demand. Candid posters and sexual advertisements put the woman in the role of the used object and forced her to broadcast the image of "I am an attractive female", which in itself kind of reduced her value as a person. At a deep level, this made the woman-man relationship not a partnership and respect, but a relationship of use.
The second wave of the sexual revolution began quite recently. She gave us the opportunity to realize that sex is not what I should, but what I want. Previously, sex was a necessity because a man needed it and was a means to keep him, but now women have finally started having sex because they like to do it.
This is a huge achievement of the modern sex industry - special trainings, woman oriented erotica, a large number of devices for female orgasm. This trend can be traced very well in the attendance of trainings. Previously, the main stream of visitors came to "The Art of Oral Sex" and "Bright Male Orgasm", and now the main traffic is "The Art of Vaginal Sex", "Awakening of the Female Orgasm" and "The Art of Sensuality", that is, women begin to enter sex through themselves … This is the core of the new sexuality when it becomes part of the female personality. In fact, sexuality is to some extent a part of human spirituality, recognition and acceptance of oneself as a whole. It is through this acceptance that a woman gains a sense of her own dignity and she no longer has to shout "I am a female" at every corner and trade in sexuality.
How to distinguish ostentatious sexuality from true sexuality
Showy sexuality serves as a "quick trap" for the male. A woman does everything for him: she makes up, dresses, looks after herself. For her, this is a daily sacrifice in order for a man to stay close. A woman with true sexuality, first of all, does it for herself, she may also love cleavage and red lipstick, but she will look very organic in her, and not as a victim of the beauty industry.
A woman of an old sexy format is constantly worried about external attributes: how she sits, how she looks, whether men like it. Latent sexuality is about an inner sense of pleasure. If a woman feels pleasure in herself, then in any case she will attract others. Her look does not say: "You can take what you want, but for a certain price." She says: “I have a universe of pleasure inside me. Are you ready and worthy to share it? " She does everything the way she wants, and not in order to please a man.
Now women are very active in responding to this and feel the need to feel, understand and learn. To please someone else, you need to understand how pleasant it is to me, how it all works and how it feels. Many men prefer a woman who does it with pleasure and is aroused herself over a highly technical, virtuoso, but unemotional blowjob. This is what sexologists are trying to teach in trainings - to enjoy the process itself.
