We met with Olesya Sudzilovskaya two years ago. Then she spoke so touchingly, with love about her family that we wished her another child. And now it's a miracle, a coincidence - in January 2016, the actress again became a mother. Her second son Mike was born. In a short period of time, Olesya not only regained her excellent shape, but is already working with might and main - she is busy in interesting projects and also tries herself in a new capacity as a screenwriter.
Olesya, let's return to our “New Year's fortune-telling”. Did you really want more children?
- Yes, Serezha and I (the husband of the actress, Sergei Dzeban. - Approx. Auth.) Both wanted. We approached the issue “seriously”, even planned a certain month in the summer for the implementation of the “project”. (Laughs.) But it took some time to realize it. For a long time, with my talented director Natalya Merkulova and her husband, screenwriter Alexei Chupov, we were hatching the idea of making our own movie and preparing a script for it. The guys wrote an amazing role for me personally. This is a dream come true for any actor. We started the preparatory period, and my family "project" had to be postponed. But then it turned out that the funds for the film were not enough. The next summer I was offered to play the role of Lyubov Orlova, and I also could not refuse this gift of fate. When the shooting of the film "Orlova and Alexandrov" was completed, I realized that our plan with Serezha could not be postponed any longer. And then suddenly there was money for our film with Natalia and Alexei. In general, I made both my dreams come true at the same time! (Laughs.)
Now life has changed, women at forty feel young, full of strength - including for the birth of children. Didn't you have any fears, fears?
- No. I don't feel my age at all. I often ask my husband how old I am. He is good with math.
And you were not afraid to take a break from your career
- I was not afraid - the maternity leave will end, I will return to work. I serve in the theater. And she has already started filming. While I can not reveal the details, this is a very interesting movie, a comedy, where the stellar talented director and producer gathered all the color of our actors.
And what is your inner desire - to sit with your baby at home?
- Of course, you want to be in time everywhere. Do you remember I said? If in the family everything is on the "five", then in work, as a rule, on the "C". Now everything is in order at home: my loved ones are happy, healthy, receive warmth, attention, love. So I got an A in my family diary. (Smiles.) And now I can safely return to work and start getting A's there.
You, apparently, do not belong to the category of crazy mothers who shake over the child
- Why, I am in it, in this category, and I have to solve everything in an operative way - as they say, cut the umbilical cord. Although I still have a very powerful, close relationship with my eldest son. I suppose it will be the same with Maykusha.
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Who can you entrust the child to?
- I have a nanny, she is a real professional. And I am immensely grateful to her. By the age of one and a half, Mike knows a lot: he eats with a spoon on his own, informs about the need to visit the toilet room, knows a large number of words. Perhaps, in our childhood, education and training were not so important. There is now a lot of good literature on these issues. How to treat the period of pregnancy responsibly - to keep track of what music you listen to, what programs you watch, with whom and how you communicate - and to development at an early age. The techniques that we had successfully tried with Artemka in due time have now been given to Mike - "Mathematics and reading from the cradle", detailed explanations and conversations about everything. Do you know why some kids don't talk for a long time? Because we try to satisfy all their desires even before they are expressed. The child needs to be motivated: “What can I bring you? This toy? Or this one? Tell me! " - and then he will try to explain something to these dull adults.
Feeling with the first child and now: have you become calmer?
- Yes. There is a good anecdote on this topic. With the first child, we boil everything, filter, disinfect, wipe everything. With the second, it's different: you don't need to boil, the main thing is not to eat the cat from the bowl. And with the third - if he eats from a bowl of a cat, then this is a cat's problem. (Laughs.) It seems to me that with the increasing number of children in the family, mothers really become calmer. Of course, the debut makes itself felt, you feel hyperresponsibility. And on the "second take" there is already some relaxation. Although even now I sometimes catch on myself the condescending glances of my friends and understand that from time to time I become an "anxious mom."
Did you prepare Tema for the fact that he will have a younger brother?
- Yes. He understood that something joyful and serious was about to happen, and he was very much looking forward to this event. It happens that children are jealous of each other, especially when they are same-sex. Seniors react hard to the arrival of a new baby in the family, see him as a competitor. Thank God, this did not happen with us. The topic is happy that he has a brother: he hugs him, hugs him, rides him on his skateboard, lets him play with his typewriter, teaches him everything. Even arriving late from school, he studies with his brother. It so happens that Mike cannot finish his porridge in any way, and then Artemka arranges a puppet theater for us. (Smiles.) I love to watch this picture.
You yourself do not notice that you switched to the younger one?
- Senior very competently "takes" his time. (Laughs.) Probably, Serezha and I behave correctly: we ask Artyom what was interesting at school, what bad and good things happened during the day and how we can help. And he is glad that he can say that we are interested in his life. Let it not last long, but this is a quality time spent together, without talking on the phone and these "wait": now I’ll finish talking, cook, and you sit down for now. School really takes a lot of effort. Our last family experience - the task in French was completed until twelve at night, all together. I'm sure Tema sees that we are all just as attentive to him and love him.
Previously, he had a bunch of different activities: English, French, sports, music school
- You know, quite a bit of it dropped out. (Laughs.) And lessons were added at the music school, now a choir is required. We thought to ourselves that Artyom would probably give up his studies - as they say, “took” the instrument, felt the rhythm - and that's enough. But no. He came home after the first lesson in the choir so happy! He said he was in the front row. It is believed that if it is difficult to understand the direction of the baby, it is necessary to give him the opportunity to do whatever he wants. Moreover, within six months, the child has no right to say that he no longer wants to do this, he must finish his studies, complete training. And only after six months he can express his opinion whether he will stay further in the section or the circle. Artem continues to do everything with pleasure. And with today's workload, he signed up for computer science lessons at school on Saturdays!
You, too, were so determined and passionate at his age?
- Everything is easier with me: I have been doing rhythmic gymnastics for twelve years. I am grateful to my dad: he took me not to some embroidery circle, which was located in the next doorway, but to a sports school, to which I had to walk forty minutes through the woods six times a week. My childhood was spent in Zelenograd, and there was a fairly serious sports school. Then we moved to Moscow, to my mother's parents. Here, too, I devoted a lot of time to gymnastics, I was fully loaded. Probably, it was easier for me as a child. I didn't have to choose, my parents and I, as they say, "hit the same spot."
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Do you financially encourage your son's studies?
- In no case for studying - there should be a different motivation. In the lower grades, it is worth encouraging the child's desire to learn with some small souvenirs, stickers. They are so interesting now - with rubber pads, different aromas. But for domestic work, Artemka receives a "salary" from us.
Salary?
- Sometimes I find my son washing floors or picking leaves on the street. He knows that he will receive a monetary reward for doing housework.
How does he spend his money?
- Artem has already learned how to save. He is able, having seen something interesting in the store, wait, collect money, and not spend it right away on some trifle.
It happens that he is naughty, asks to buy something?
- It happens. I think this is normal for children. (Laughs) I understand them - such a choice! Seryozha says that in his childhood he had three toys: a typewriter, a set of toy soldiers and a pipe, and I had two little pups whom I adored and sewed dresses for them. What do you want from modern kids, when the plane takes off from the command of their remote control, the doll has a husband and a castle, and you can drive an ATV to your friend's house. (Laughs.) We really want to teach our son to be grateful, to say thank you. And the only thing we never refuse him is buying a book.
Are you now limited in movement or are you taking your baby with you on trips?
- The first time we went on a trip with our youngest son, he was four months old. Mike saw the sea and now he says this word with pleasure. So we do not limit ourselves, we are calm about traveling with a baby. Seryozha does everything to ensure that we have such an opportunity.
Has your relationship changed somehow?
- Yes. You know, this is an amazing story. It is known from psychology that if you build relationships with each other, then relationships with children will be built on their own. When my husband and I began to devote more time and attention to each other, then there appeared more time and opportunities to study with our sons. Serezha and I can sit in a restaurant in the evening, having made a date to each other, bathe Mike together (it's such a pleasure to hold a crumb in our arms!), Lie together in Artyom's bed, putting him to bed and listening to stories about school adventures, and later quietly sneak out of the room, trying not to wake him up, realizing what kind of adult parents we are!
Olesya, in fact, the first question that I wanted to ask you: how to look so beautiful after giving birth?
- This is work on yourself. (Laughs.) During feeding, everything is not so scary, this requires the body's reserves, you really do not sleep and, probably, that is why you are losing weight. But then you start gaining weight quite actively. It is important to choose the right food. I learned a lot from nutritionist Margarita Koroleva, who helped me get in shape after I quit sports, after my first pregnancy, and now. Exercise is perfect for everyone - thirty squats in the morning, swimming if possible - and after a while, the reflection in the mirror will start to like.
You give the impression of a sort of "iron lady". Do you give yourself indulgences sometimes? Can you let me eat cake, for example?
- I would probably be the happiest person if I could sit down like this and eat a whole cake at once. I can see this picture right in front of me. For some reason, I presented that cake with oil roses from our childhood, remember? Probably, if it was a luxurious "Medovik", I could master it. Honestly, I haven’t done such experiments yet. But I allow myself to be lazy. But not for long, about ten minutes. And then I think: “Here I lie, and there life goes on without me.” I jumped up, grab the phone, the script - and into the car.
And how do you please yourself, beloved?
- I am all dedicated to either the family or the profession. If you mean any magical massage that I do, it’s because I have a shoot soon. Or a manicure. I go to the master because I know: tomorrow I have a photo session and there will be a close-up, everything should look perfect. My first director, Vladimir Potapov, whom I still fondly remember, an esthete, taught me to love a woman in myself."Olesya, no matter what happens in life, the girl's head and hands must always be in order." Then, at the age of fourteen, I did not fully realize this thought. And later I noticed that men often pay attention to well-groomed hair and hands. The most expensive gift for yourself, your beloved, is time. Time to be with your husband, children, for privacy with a book or a movie.
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Did the break for maternity leave affect the working form?
- We have a saying in our family: "Olesya has not had a performance for a long time." (Laughs.) This means that I become over-emotional and begin to unnecessarily engage in everyone around me. There were moments when I began to experience real pleasure in cooking my favorite borscht and pies and, in general, did not strive anywhere from home. But very soon this saying was heard from someone close to him. And it became clear (especially to me) that the profession, without which I simply cannot live, requires new knowledge and a return to work.
You still feel your creative potential
- I want to play in the cinema and in the theater. And I think someday I will become someone's director. I read it: in order for a person to be absolutely happy, during his life he must try himself in seven professions. I am absolutely happy in my own!
Olesya, have you had crises in your life?
- Certainly. I guess why you are asking this question. I guess I give the impression of a person who is doing well and who rushes forward like a locomotive. I'm not used to showing my serious experiences to people. I can share them with my mom and my best friend. Everything that happens to me that is dramatic, I will express in the profession: on stage or in the frame. It so happened that the people around me are positive and very cheerful. I remember getting to know Serezha and immediately thought: what a bright and smiling person, how joyful and calm it is with him. It is more pleasant for me to find a fairy tale and a miracle everywhere, and not to dwell on something negative. Parents taught this. Now we are also creating a fairy tale around our children, in which they happily believe.
Yes, as you relate to the world, so does it to you
- Maybe yes. I want to be happy. If something does not suit you, you must first understand yourself - why did you find yourself in a similar situation. And always look for the moments that make you happy!
